By: Lisa Hartman
Updated: Sep. 28, 2020
Originally Published: Feb. 6, 2014
As a parent of two teenagers, I’ve gathered some invaluable wisdom on the often tumultuous journey of raising teens. Drawing from my experiences and a sprinkle of humor, here are ten key observations that will help you survive these challenging years.
1. Teens Think They Know Everything
To your teenager, it’s an undeniable truth that you are clueless. The constant soundtrack of snickers and eye-rolls is a rite of passage you must embrace. Just remember, they may come to appreciate your wisdom by the age of 25, and you’ll be surprised at how much they think they’ve learned.
2. The Love-Hate Dynamic
Being a teenager comes with emotional whiplash. One moment they’ll want nothing to do with you; the next, they’ll seek your affection and approval. This rollercoaster of feelings can be frustrating for both sides. You might wish they could revert back to the simpler days of childhood, only to be amazed by their growth and maturity.
3. Body Image Struggles Are Inevitable
Teenage girls often grapple with self-image issues, feeling too fat, too thin, or too anything that doesn’t match societal standards. Regardless of how you model body positivity, remember that these feelings are not your fault. It’s simply the hormonal chaos of adolescence.
4. They’re Polite to Everyone Else
It’s often said that if your teen treats you like dirt but is respectful to others, it’s a sign of their comfort at home. While this may sound reassuring, it doesn’t make their behavior any less exasperating in the moment. Just hang in there; they’ll be back to their usual selves soon enough.
5. Mistakes Are Part of Growing Up
Your teen will likely make some questionable choices. Reflect on your own youthful indiscretions—most turned out to be harmless lessons. Allow them to make mistakes; it’s an essential part of their development into responsible adults.
6. Food Disappearances Will Haunt You
No amount of groceries will seem sufficient. I have a friend with three teenage boys who prepares a whole box of pasta daily just to keep up. If you’re not budgeting wisely, you may find your pantry emptied faster than you can replenish it.
7. Expect a Mess
Teenagers have an uncanny ability to create chaos. Coats on the floor, unmade beds, and questionable odors are par for the course. This isn’t a hormonal issue; it’s simply the nature of being a teenager who prioritizes comfort over tidiness.
8. Nostalgia Will Hit You Hard
You may find yourself feeling wistful when you see a toddler running into their parent’s arms. The longing for those simpler moments can be overwhelming. However, it’s important to cherish the present because…
9. Gratitude Will Emerge
You’ll inevitably encounter a toddler throwing a tantrum in public, and in those moments, you’ll be thankful for the phase you’ve survived. It’s a stark reminder of how much you’ve navigated and how far you’ve come.
10. This Phase Will End
Just like sleepless nights with a newborn or a whiny toddler phase, the teenage years will pass. Soon, they’ll be off to college, and you might find yourself reminiscing about the days you wished for their independence. Despite all the challenges, the love you share will always prevail.
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Summary
Raising teenagers can be a wild ride filled with ups and downs, emotional turmoil, and a fair share of mess. Understanding their struggles with identity, mistakes, and the inevitable love-hate relationship can help you navigate these years with grace. Ultimately, the love you have for your teens will shine through the chaos.