Everywhere you turn, there seems to be a chorus of voices reminding working moms of what they’re supposedly missing out on. Whether it’s well-meaning friends or family members, there’s no shortage of unsolicited opinions about how we should be parenting. The truth is, most moms are juggling jobs alongside their family responsibilities, and that means we’re all too familiar with the kinds of things that can grate on our nerves. Here are ten remarks that working mothers wish people would think twice before saying:
- “You’re so lucky to have some time away!”
Honestly? Waking up at dawn to put on pantyhose and head to the office doesn’t feel like a break to me. And if you think I’m enjoying a breather from my kids, you’re mistaken. They’re the ones on my mind during my workday. - “You’re missing out on so much.”
Trust me, I know. I’m aware that my children might achieve milestones while I’m at work, but guess what? We all miss out on things in life—it’s just a reality of time constraints. Your child may have said their first words to someone else too! - “You look so tired!”
Thanks for the observation, but pointing it out won’t help me feel any better. If you’re not offering a spa day along with that comment, please keep it to yourself. - “Do you really need to work?”
That’s a personal question. Maybe I have to work to support my family, or perhaps I genuinely love my career. Either way, it’s not your place to judge my choices. - “Studies show kids in daycare are more aggressive.”
I’m aware of the conflicting research. There’s no definitive proof that daycare is detrimental, so please refrain from suggesting I’m harming my child. If we’re going to exchange opinions, I could easily share my thoughts on your parenting too. - “Don’t you miss them?”
Of course I do! Unless you’re indifferent about your own kids, it’s presumptuous to assume I don’t feel the same way. - “You must be incredibly organized!”
While some may think it comes naturally, let me tell you being a working mom is tough. If you had my responsibilities, you’d quickly learn how to manage chaos! - “It must be so hard for you.”
Yes, it is. I’m not magically endowed with extra help; I handle all the household chores on top of my job. If you think it’s tough for me, recognize that it’s just as challenging for others who share similar burdens. - “I couldn’t let someone else raise my kids.”
Raising my kids includes working to provide for them. If your partner works too, does that imply you’re not raising them either? - “Women should be at home with their kids.”
No, women should have the freedom to choose their paths, whether that means working, staying home, or anything in between.
As a working mother, I strive to respect all types of moms—those who work, those who stay at home, and those who juggle it all. We all face our unique challenges, but that doesn’t mean we should tear each other down. A little empathy goes a long way, so think before you speak, no matter who you’re addressing.
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In summary, working moms face a unique set of challenges, and it’s crucial to be mindful of the words we use around them. Empathy and respect can make a world of difference in fostering a supportive environment for all parents.